Random thoughts-May 28, 2014

photo by P.Lynne Designs-
New Courthouse, Downtown Columbus

These are my random thoughts for today.  This is actually the first time in a long time I have written this way.  My thought process is usually the following:

• Plan a topic for a blog (I STILL have 5 blogs)
• Write my thoughts in Ms Word.  although there are other softwares out there, I enjoy the ease of Microsoft products, even though I do not always agree with the way the company handles things, which is often cold and a little underhanded, like Google and a couple more companies I can think of in the technology world.
• Edit what I wrote and research to make sure my facts are straight.  This is a little backwards sometimes.  If I am writing for someone else, I will write and research at the same time, but for me, I kind of get it backwards.   This post is not one of those reseachy (is that a word, Google spell check hates it, I am leaving it), post.
• Finally, I place pictures and other things in it.   I learned a valuable lesson  last year.  Always, always, always (how many times I have to say "always") document where you found the image, even it if came from your own camera/phone you pushed the button type image.   Reason:  R-E-S-P-E-C-T and authenticity.  Respect for the person who took it (you may have to event ask permission to use said photo-more on that later), and you would want to someone to do the same for your images.  As I grow more and more as a business person and artist, the less and less I want to just look in Google's library.   I know this because of what the musician, Prince did for his own music.  There is a post waiting on another blog, so you will either have to Google it or wait until I post my thoughts on the subject on royalties.

I had a wonderful time at my aunt and uncle's house over the weekend.  I have not seen my cousin, who lives in Indianapolis, IN in years, nor the friends I made in Detroit.  Me and my parents went to help celebrate my uncle's 70th birthday.  I met a new cousin (well, she is not so new-11 months old).  I did fell a little left out for a moment.  If anyone has read my post on May 7, 2012 (Yikes that long ago), I talked about being single and childless on a Monday morning (see actual title and post Here ), well, I had one of those moments on Memorial Day, and I had to remove myself from everyone else.  So I went to the porch and prayed.  My mother decided (or God showed her) that I was gone for a bit, and came to the porch.   I did not want to talk about it, but found myself discussing it anyway, and before I knew it, she actually for a second, accused me for trying to ruin the last few moments of my little get-away.   I quickly corrected her, and said that it was nothing like that at all, and it wasn't.   I explained that I felt like that I was blessed with so many things, including having the children who are in my life, BUT they are not mine to tuck into bed each night, sing to them, hug them, and invoke my wisdom as a mom should.  I am doing from an aunt's or cousin's Point of View, and that never should take the place of what a mom gives her child, which was missing in my life.  I feel blessed to be a part of their lives and to be working on building my business.   In the state of Ohio, I have 4 more years to adopt (I will be 50 in July), and I have wanted to be a mom since I was in my 20's.  Mom, then informed me that I should never count out what else that God has in store for me, which may include being able to still get married and to adopt.  I hold on to that promise.  It gets a little lonely in this condo of mine.

Finally, I leave you with this note:  do not take your blessings for granted.  You may or may not get to the point, where you say that you have made it, and that you have arrived, because there is always room to grow.  Sure we all may want the latest and greatest gadgets, the best technology you can afford, but is it all worth it at the end of the day?  I think that I can truly say that I have a ways to go and grow.  I still need to do somethings that will mentally and physically prepare me for motherhood in her 50's. Most people tell me to stay where I am at, but they can only say it, because they have children, but I wish that they would for once see it from my point of view.  I don't have a fur baby, which to me is a lot less work (no talk back from the unhappy charges, or paying for college tuition), but to others, it yields the same results, which is I am taking care of someone in addition to myself.

What society expects

nieces (Photo credit: sukhchander)

...."snips and snails and puppy dog tails
That's what little boys are made of."
Really?   Parents of another generation, is that what you think little boys are made of?   Altough I do not have children of my own, I am blessed to have four.  17,6,3,and 2 years old (the 2 year old is actually a friend of mine's child).   As I watch all of them, 17 going into a man, the 6 year old is learning to make friends, and the 3 and 2 year old learning about all the things around them, I cannot help but to wonder why I keep telling myself why I want to adopt a girl.  Boys are fascinating to watch.  I guess it is the silliness to take risks.  We as a society, encourage little boys to be adventurous, daring, and to take risks.  We tell them it is ok to be rough, tough, and to scrape a couple of knees.  I love little boys as much as little girls.  Let's move on...
...."Sugar and spice, and everything nice,
That's what little girls are made of.
Again, parents of another generation, is this what you used to think of little girls.   Sweet, cute, and whinny?   We expect little girls to learn how to be submissive and to be lady-like.  Alone with those little nephews, I have a 5 year old niece.  She is the sister to the 6 year old.   She always want to do what her brother does, but again due to society's wishes, we tell her, like all little girls to be delicate, dainty, and cute.
So what if a man likes to cook, clean, and dress nice, or a woman likes to fix cars, build things, or ride a motorcycle, what are they to society?   They are considered gay.   Not necessary.  For those of you who still think that, consider this:
How is a man or woman supposed to survive without a mate?  A person does not have to get married, or for some reason they cannot get married.   For a man, that means how are they supposed eat, when health experts tell us that we have gotten too fat off of fast food.   It is also unhealthy to live in a messy house.  If a man does not dress nice, he is considered a bum or homeless.
Likewise, if a woman does not know how to fix anything, she may never know what needs to be fix or how to fix it.   Yes, there are experts out there, but when there is a problem, the person in trouble is always the one to blame.   After all, how does a woman find out how much money is in the bank account, how to invest, and when to invest.   Are cars the only mode of transportation for a woman?  And finally, how is a woman going to make a change in society to benefit gender relationships?   I  thought so.
So, the conclusion is simply.  Yes, boys can be rough, but so can girls.  Girls can cook and dance, but so can boys. Let a person be who they want to be, and survive the best way they know how, and unless they are hurting another person, let them be.
Be blessed my friend.

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Thankful Tuesday: She did WHAT!?

The Will Smith's Family's Reaction
(Courtesy of USmagazine.com) 

For thankful Tuesday, I am going to talk about being­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­ _________.  I am going to fill in the blank later and I will explain along the way.

Everyone is talking about how bad Miley Cyrus was Sunday night.  I did not see the VMA’s, but I did see a snippet of it on You Tube.   I am not going to go over it nor will I explain how raunchy she was.   No use beating a dead horse with a broomstick.  It is done, in the history books, and there have been worst acts than that at concerts (think Lady Gaga.   Sorry, Little Monsters)

I am not condoning what Miley Cyrus did, after all she is a letdown.  This is my personal term for people who the world had high hopes for, because this person had such a positive image that the world saw, and thought, “finally someone for my kids to look up to.”  There have been several letdowns lately, such as Amanda Bynes and Lindsey Lohan to name a few. Perhaps they are not ready for what the world considers adulthood or acting like an adult.  They were looking for something to get out of the squeaky clean image these young ladies portrait in the characters they played, such as doing drugs, drinking, or being provocative, which is not the answer.  I would even throw in Justin Bieber into the mix of people who are not responsible enough to have a fan base consisting of children.

So what does this has to do with Thankful Tuesday, it simple.  I am thankful that there are parents out there who want their kids to stay as innocent as possible.  They do that by saying no.  

Saturday, I went to the store with a friend of mine and her 2-year old son.  As we were riding along in the car, all of a sudden, I was listening to this little voice singing, “Twinkle, Twinkle, little Star.”   I almost had a tear in my eye.  Why?  Because I want children to stay as innocent as possible, and to sing children’s songs, not these songs that talk about getting someone in bed with them.  These kids do not know what that means, and as far as my friend’s son is concern, he may not understand the words to that song about a little star, but my friend would feel a lot better explaining about a star than what “Blurred Lines” means to him or any child under the age of 13.

I am just thankful that we still have people who think that children still need to live like is the 1950’s, 60s, and 70s.   They were not all innocent times, but there was not as much sex and other stuff on television and in the movies as there are now.  What these kids need are some real role models who show them how to act and live in this world instead of some has been, who like to parade in a bra and panties set on stage in front of thousands.

I am not sure what happened... my personal week in review

I originally had a blog post talking about my day, and I may redo it at some point, but it mystically disappeared from my posts.  This was the first time it happened, and I hope it was the last.  I had one person post it as a +1 on Google plus.  I had gotten finished with the third part of it, and I could not find part 2.   Strange.  But I do know one thing, If this keeps up, me and Blogger may have to part ways with this blog too.   There are so many things I want to talk about and do, and I cannot have anything like this happen again.

Affiliates...

There comes a time in one's life when you have to re-evaluate some things.  One of them is finances.  Now, I am not one of those people who beg for funds, but I need an outlet, and two years ago, I started hearing about affiliates and how they can help your business grow.   I know I do not have a lot of traffic on my blogs, but every time I apply, I get approved for affiliates.   I would love it if someone who looks at my blogs also look at my affiliates to see if there is anything you would like to buy.  Just look, that all. After all, it is the holidays, and presents need to be gotten and bought.   Just one little look, and I promise I will not tell the person you bought it from where you got that perfect present.

Appreciation...

Have you appreciated someone lately?   I did, I appreciate my pastor.  October was Pastor's appreciation month at my church.  Nothing big, the lay speakers took her and her family out to dinner Wednesday afternoon at Olive Garden.  I am not a lay speaker, but I am the daughter of one.  My mom is one, and this is the month that she is liturgist. we had fun.  My sister wrote on Facebook that no one told her about it.  Well she would known if she had been at church Sunday.  That just the breaks,lol.

Appointments... (oh my, I sense a pattern of words, all starting with app, LOL)

I had a doctor's appointment Wednesday (before going to dinner), and she told me I was 10 pounds over my BMI (Body mass index).  Ok, this is the first time she has scolded me for doing so, so now, I have to watch what I eat.  I tell you, it is all of this self employment thing I am doing, LOL.  If I do not finish something that I want to finish, I will stay up all night (like I am now, LOL), and take care of it.  If I am hungry, I will eat.   I need to change my habit.  Anyway, I was sick as well, because I had a flu shot, and this is the first time I got sick from it.  I feel better now.

Last item, Young and The Restless...

Do you watch this?  I do...sadly.  I have been watching it since 1997, and I am hooked.  I have some thoughts on the subject:  They need to get rid of the following people; Victor (yes I know he makes the show, but come on now, does he have to to be so cold), Jack (the feud has to end), Adam (no comment), Sharon (a clepto and a Arsonist, good choice writers), Nick (Gold-digger, but I am glad he finally said no to his father), Nikki (no comment), and Kevin (never liked him).  I am not writing them off just yet, because this soap has new writers, so it will be interesting to see how each character is in the future.  For those who do watch and wondering why I did not mention Phyllis, well, she is a basket case, and interesting to watch.

What is your take on the subjects I wrote about? I am in this challenge to write something everyday for the next 30 days.  so what do you want me to cover during this challenge?   I am staying away from the following subjects:  the election and anything that have already been written about already in this blog.  Fair enough?   Talk to you tomorrow.