Monday, May 7, 2012
Monday Morning being single and childless
For you single ladies out there, no matter what age you are, Why are you single and how have you dealt with it up to this point? For me, it was a little of choice, a little of career, and a little of "where are the men?" I wanted it all. I wanted to be one of the ones in the household bringing home the bacon. My mother was at home for a while. This was during a time when women stayed at home, while the husband worked, and women formed clubs to pass the time away, when they were cleaning, making dinner, washing something (clothes, dishes, children). When they were not doing that, they were grocery shopping, mending, and as I said earlier, getting together with the ladies. My father was in the Air Force (retired in 1979), so he flew a lot. I have had my share of pachinko machines he would bring back from Japan. When I was 12, my mom got her first job, at a fabric store. There she became assistant manager, and I learned my first skill, inventory. Starting at age 16, I would volunteer to do inventory, and made a little bit of money for whatever I wanted. It was easy, because I was the assistant manager's daughter, so you better not mess with me, at least so I thought. She retired in 1995 from working in a home improvement center, but she has not stopped working. She now works in the church, doing things such as food pantry and being a Christian Education chairperson (a position she has held proudly since 1980). When she retired, she and my dad became foster parents, which is how I got my sister (My birth sisters are in heaven).
Yes, I still want to get married. I love the idea of loving someone, and getting love back from them, which brings me to the point of children. I am the only one in the family without a child. The idea of physically giving birth ended at age 29 due to health issues, but I never said that I would not adopt either way. I have not dealt with the news very well at times. My brother has two boys, and my sister has a boy and a girl, and although I love being aunt to these four people (ages 16, 4, 3, and 1), I still long for one of my own. Although, the child will not be growing inside of me they have, however, been growing inside my heart for the last few years.
I am not saying that being single does not have its perks. If I want quiet time, I turn off the television or radio. If I really do not want to be bothered (and I have not), I do not answer the phone (although I make my parents worry). The messes are mine (except my car in the backseat -its theirs, LOL, and I am still finding french fries from Mickey D's). I still like Disney, and trying to take the family of 10 (4 adults, 2 seniors, a teen, and 3 little ones) in 2013. I have my own business, and I can work up to 4 am if I want to without taking a break except to eat and go to the bathroom. If I had hubby and kids, there would be the constant "honey could you do this", calling mommy for no reason (although it is hilarious when the kids scream aunty for no reason), boo-boos (hubby and kids), and the endless calls of "what's for dinner?". So for those of you who are married (and you know who you are), ask yourself this question, "how would it feel to be single and childless?" Consider yourself blessed with the fact that you have found someone, and that you can get up for those 2am feedings. I consider myself blessed in all areas, single and childless or not, but I am still looking, and my baby girl (or boy) is not far, rather I marry or not. I still enjoy working, and everyone would have to adjust to my present schedule, and me to theirs. God Bless you on this day.