Saturday, June 25, 2016

Finding your own self-worth as a writer

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This post is a little different than my usual posts, because, lately I have been seeing a lot of people being torn down by others for the way they look, act, and lifestyle. It does not have to be in the news. The tearing down of self-esteem can be in home, school, work, or even at an event. They come in all shapes and sizes. Bullying has hit an all-time high. It is time to take back your self-worth as a person, which is a subject for a different day. Since this is a writing blog, I thought I would tackle the problem from the side of a writer. At first, I thought about saying that you are a beautiful writer, no matter what style you write in, what type, and where you write. There are several ways this self-worth can be achieved.
1) Own it. I am not talking about just owning your work, I am talking about owning your profession. Everyone has different reasons to become a writer. Believe it or not, mine was it sort of fell into my lap. I have had a whole of jobs that would get me the career that I needed. When I first graduated from high school, I wanted to be an actress and a dancer. I had been in several plays, took all kinds of dance, and I play the keyboard instruments. My father thought it was not enough, so I studied social work and I hated it. Next came Early Childhood Education, and was told that I was just being a glorified babysitter. My math was bad, so I did not want to an elementary school teacher (I could have). These were the first jobs of many, including working at a bank, a web company (CompuServe), and finally settling in on Marketing, and I had found my calling. Humm, I just gave myself several things to write about. Writing gives me the relaxation I need, plus I get to help out others who hate writing. That leads to the next reason…
2) You are helping others. If you are a freelance writer, or freelance of anything, you are helping out other people. What executive likes to write out a 250-word document on the state of the company when they can hire someone to do it for them? You are an outsource for them. They do not have to put pen to paper or touch a keyboard. They can tell you what they need, and how they want it said. A win-win situation. They get the task done (providing that they hired a Ghostwriter for the job), and you get paid.
3) Payment. You get to set your own price. In a sense, you are the boss. What is your document on the colonization of bees’ worth? $25? It may be too low. $75? It still may not be enough. $100? It may be just right to you, but to a client, it may be not make the budget. But, that is the beauty of setting your own price. You can see how much your work is worth. Look at how much time you want to put into writing and how much your overall budget is (including living expenses). This should help.
So, these are some of the ways that you can find your self-worth in your writing. You are confident, you do not tear yourself down, and you get to build others up. You are authentic in your writing, and you speak the truth, even when you are writing fiction. When you are not at your best, others see it, and that gives way to the bullying that may happen. Some may not understand why you do what you do, but that is when you explain your work through your words, because words are powerful when written and spoken.

Thursday, June 16, 2016

Random post: claiming Bloglovin

I did a boo-boo.  The only reason for writing this post today is followers.  I screwed up Bloglovin.  What is Blogloving?  For those of you not familiar with the site or what it does.  Blovlovin to me is like a newspaper for bloggers.  Bloggers write a post as normal on their blog.  Simple, right?  what happens next is more or less behind the scenes work.  A code in HTML sends a copy of this blog post to Bloglovin's website, and it allows readers to read this blog.  You do not have to go to that person's website, in order to read that blog post.
Does it work?  Sure it does, or Bloglovin would have shut down by now.  It does not take much to close a website these days.  The whole point of this website in the first place is to streamline your reading.  
How do I go about getting new readers for my blog?
Well, first thing is you need a blog.  It does not have to be an exiting blog, although, it would not hurt.  You do not need a ton of followers (readers) either.  Next, sign up for an account.  Go to www.bloglovin,com and sign up.  It is free, and it is free to list your blog.  This next part is a little technical, but easy.  Once approved, you want to go to claim your blog.   (sorry for the lack of photos, as I am in a hurry, and I want to reclaim this blog.) So you go to:

  •         Search for your blog's URL
  •         Highlight it
  •         and hit Claim It 

What will come up is a HTML string, and you copy it.  Next, write a new blog post.  You only have to do it once, not every time you write a blog post.  You would do that in you blog program, and do not worry, WordPress, Blogger, and Tumblr all allow it.  One thing:  before you write anything, make sure you turm on your blog's HTML writer, and paste the code FIRST.  Now you are ready to write you blog post.  Write something random like I am doing, or write your planned post.   Now hit publish on your platform.
 It is easy, fast, and takes no longer than to write a blog post.  Just some techie stuff.
Well, I need to publish this, and I will catch you next time.  Oh and subscribe to this blog, while you are at it.  You can subscribe to other blogs through Bloglovin.

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Wednesday, June 15, 2016


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I have no words about this week, just like I had no words when 9 people were killed last year, during a bible study.  I am sad.  I am sad for this country and this world.  The killings were no different, then when school children were gunned down while in school in Sandy Brook or Columbine, or Virginia Tech and the school in Oregon.  They were no different when a gunman went to a military base in Texas and killed people.  I can even say that these killings are no different than 9/11, or when Michael Brown, Travon Martin, or Sandra Bland were killed. 
They are all the same to me, and the all too familiar scenario goes a little like this:  Someone got hurt.  Maybe it was an injustice, a law change, or a simple color of someone’s skin or lifestyle that trigger that hurt.  It could have been a mental illness (I hear voices that told me that it is right to do it). It followed hatred.  Hatred towards that group of people.  Next, comes the preplanning. “Where can I do it, and who can I do it to that hurt the least amount of people?” Preplanning also involves making the purchase of guns, ammo, training.  After all of that, and finding a target, then the act will commence.  An ordinary workday, a night out on the town, or a school day. 
People are getting ready to go about their day.  Children getting ready for school (Sandy Brook and Columbine), People getting ready for a day of work (9/11), students getting ready for classes (Virginia Tech), and people getting ready for a night out (Pulse Nightclub and Paris, France).  They kiss their loved ones, and off they go.  People are learning, working, or having fun.  All of a sudden, everything changes for the worst possible moment.  A shooting, a routine traffic stop gone bad (Sandra Bland), a walk home gone bad (Travon Martin), bombs going off (9/11, Paris France, and Boston Marathon).  Utter chaos erupts. People are hurt, forever disfigured, or killed.    In the next few days, weeks, and months followed, lives are changed, funerals, memorials, and plans for better security are made. 
Here is my question for all who read this:  Where are those plans now?  It is the job of the administrators and leaders of this country and the world to come up with a viable solution that not only deter these people from doing harm to the general public but, make a peaceful coexistence for all.  It does not matter what race you are, gender, creed, belief, sexual orientation, or race, one of our jobs as humans is to try to peacefully coexist with our environment and with each other.
The president came up with a plan that bans the use of automatic weapons.  He did not say that you cannot own a gun, such as a rifle (manual-think westerns) or handguns (I can think of a Saturday Night Special).  Automatic guns are the kind where you put your finger on the trigger and you only have to pump one time, and multiple bullets come out.  A semi-automatic is slightly different.  That is all I know about guns. The NRA (the National Rifle Association), is a good old boy’s organization, which thinks that the president is going after their 2nd amendment rights to bear arms.  You will still have the right to bear arms, and to protect yourselves, and to hunt for sport (although I do not see why for sport when you got to eat), to me, you do not have the right to own an automatic weapon.  Why would you have one in the first place, when it is made for combat and military use ONLY, O-N-L-Y.   
I have written a comment (a letter) to the wife of the minister in Sacramento, CA, who said in his sermon, that “Orlando is now safer since 50 Pedophiles were killed in a nightclub.”  This letter is what sparked this post in the first place, because, I had said all I had to say on Facebook, Twitter, and in person.  I had to write it on their family blog page because their church did not have a comments section on their blog.  Don’t worry, I did not blast him out.  I simply reminded her to remind him of the compassion that Jesus Christ showed all people, and to not hate the person, but the act. I have made a copy of comment, and is listed below:
“Mrs.  Jimenez, I come to you with deep concern for your husband as he leads your congregation towards showing Christ's love towards others.  Christ teaches us as Christians to love one another.  You do not have to love the sin that a person does, BUT love the person anyway.  We all need a reminder of that.
When I heard on the news of the things that your husband said about Orlando, Florida in his sermon, I was very dishearten.  I thought to myself "please tell me he did not say what I thought he said."  How could he say that Orlando is a little safer because 50 Pedophiles were killed in a nightclub?  These are not the words of Christ, because, Christ teaches us to love the person despite the sin. He taught us to love people, so to say that Orlando is a lot safer does not show love nor compassion.  It shows hatred towards the person who has committed the sin.
Mrs. Jimenez, I do not know your husband and his heart, only God does, and I am not here to show that hatred towards him.  I have nothing but prayers for him, for you, and for your family and your congregation.  I am not part of that community, I am straight, African American female who is a United Methodist in Columbus, Ohio (although it does not matter what denomination I am).  My minister, on his last day at my church, as he and his family are moving to a new appointment, Sunday, encouraged us all to have compassion and prayers for not only the City of Orlando, but for the victims, friends and families of all who were killed, that they may be comforted.  My minister, as well as I, do not believe that any of them are pedophiles, but people who are trying to have a good time that night.  No one knows these people's hearts but God.  They may have confessed their sins as they took their last breaths.  You may never know.
May God bless you and your family for now and forever.  I wish you well, and I will be praying for you and your city and congregation as well.”
I hope this was a misunderstanding, as the news media has a tendency to take things out of context, and sensationalize it.  I like to believe that Pastor Jimenez has the love of Christ in his heart, and again that this was all a misunderstanding.  We, as Christians have to really watch what we say to others, me included.


Thursday, June 9, 2016

Tuesday, May 31, 2016

I am not making money as a blogger

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At least not yet.   Why?  Well, it is very simple, and I will explain in a moment.  I think blogging is a wonderful way to communicate what you want a person to know about information and content is what people crave.  It does not matter if you are reviewing a product, selling a product, or even talking about the latest trending in fashion.  People are hungry for information, but you have to present it in a way that gets their attention.  Once you have that reader’s ear, you have to present it in a way that will keep them clicking. 
So, back to the reason why I am not making money on my blogs.   I had a chance to analyze why, and keep in mind I read lots of articles to come to this conclusion, as well as I am my own worst critic, so here is the truth about Patricia’s blogs (That me).
1)      Consistency.  I have not been consistent in about a year or more.  I do not have a schedule, and I do not have a set of topics that I have set aside to talk about.  The experts tell you that consistency is the key to anything in life.  In this case, I am talking about my blogs.   When I initially started out in 2009, when the term blogging was just an infant, I wanted to post something every day.  Even if that mean telling the world that I was awake and ready to start my day.  It worked for a while…. A. whole. three. Months.  Then I changed my schedule, because, The family got in the way. 
2)      Time.  You know for a single woman with no kids and no husband/ Significate other, it seems that every time I looked around, I was busy take siblings, nephews, and nieces places.  When someone came to town, I was summoned  to my parent’s house to see relatives, who I have not seen in months.  Oh, do not judge me, I enjoyed it, but it took me away from something that could make money, especially after I left my demanding job as a customer service associate in a scrapbook store for working at home.  I finally got that under control, taught my sister to take the bus (actually insisted she take the bus), my nephew got his driver’s license, and I was a free woman.  Oops, not so fast.  My mom got sick, and now she drives less than she used to, but, she is getting back to driving herself sometimes, but she does not drive at night.  I love driving my mother, because, it gives us time to talk.  Plus, it is about time that I take her places.  My dad drives her sometimes as well.
3)      Lost topics.  As I explained earlier, I need to schedule topics.  I operate on the subject of “If it feels right, you will know it”.  I guess I am like the Prince or Michael Jackson of blog posts when it comes to writing.  If I do not feel like the time is right to present a blog post, I will not publish it. RIP to the both of you.
So, that comes to the subject of comments.  I did not put it on the list, because, this is something that I have not had much on my blogs.  I feel like I am not reaching someone when I do not see a comment.  I am not sure if I should continue writing about that subject or not.  On this blog, one of my biggest amount of comments I have received was on my piece about Dance Mom’s star, Abby Lee Miller.  I received a total of 20 comments.   That made me think I have struck a chord when I talked about how much I hated her teaching these kids dance.  I still watch the show, and still hate her teaching methods.  Other posts that I have received a lot of comments on were when I wished everyone a happy Ballet Day, and when I posted them on linked sites. 
On two of my blogs, I am in transitioning them over to WordPress.  You can go back to see those posts, because, I am still in transition with them.  I decided to keep this one on Blogger for now, until, I have finished doing so. 

I hope I can give you a little insight into this first part of why I am not making money with blogging.  There is a part 2 coming soon.

Wednesday, April 27, 2016

Go live under a rock

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Note:  This is my status on Facebook.  I am not apologizing for my opinions, because, the opinions of a certain group of people are the anti-teachings of Jesus.   Here goes.

I about to stick my foot in my mouth. I have been reading all these comments about #boycottTarget, and I have to say this: you might as well live in a cave and cut off communication from the world. I do not boycott, unless, it directly affects me. I do not care what a person does behind the wall of a stall in a bathroom. why? because I go in do my business, and unless a woman is screaming in agony. I check all stalls before I enter, and if something is not right, I leave, period.
When I was little, my mom went into the public bathroom with me.  She made sure that no one was there to harm me. She stayed there until I was finished, and we left together. If it was my brother, he went to the ladies’ bathroom, until he was old enough, then either my father went with him and stayed, or if he was with my mom, she stood at the entrance of the men's bathroom until he came out.
Jesus taught us all to love one another, that includes anyone who is different than us. Why should you care what a person's sexual orientation is in the first place? Are you being hit on by anyone who is in the LGBT community? if so, you have a mouth, tell them "no, you are not interested, just like you would tell a heterosexual.
What a person does behind closed doors is their business and theirs alone. STOP TRYING TO DO GOD'S JOB BY BOYCOTTING. Let God take care of those people. You do not want your children exposed to them. You would be surprised how many in the LGBT community your child is exposed to in the first place. If you want to boycott anyone, stop reading AFA articles. They are anti-tolerant of anyone different than them. I am not listening to them. in fact, I never listened to them, because they have articles that are not backed by God's Word, and sprouting off one bible verse does not make it Christian based.
So, this has turned into a mini blog post. unfriend me if you did not like what I said. if someone wants you in a perverted way, they do not need a law to prevent them from going into women's bathroom Just scream for security, or better yet, just leave if you feel unsafe.

I have nothing more to say about my views, and I did not say it to get a pat on the back from the LGBT community, or a “how dare you say that, because, you are a Christian” sneer.  We all have opinions, and it is our job to teach.   I am teaching you to tolerate and rather you turn this controversy into a teachable moment is up to you.  I still feel the same way about my views on homosexuality, but I also feel that I cannot tell them what they are doing is wrong or right.  They are not hitting on me, and I know better as a soon to be a mother and current aunty to teach any child what to do if a stranger approach them, who to get in contact with, and to tell me right away if something is not right with their current situation.  
I put the AFA on the same level as PETA.  They mean well but go way to far in their non-tolerance of people.  It is OK to have views, such as making people aware of cruelty to animals, and making bathrooms safe for women and children.  I am all for that, and much, much more.  I am also against cruelty towards Black people,Christians, and women, abuse of any form, equal education for all children at economic levels and cultures, equal housing, and equal pay for all.  The only thing you will not see me do ever is get in a protest line, because, I feel I can protest in other ways.  I like rallies, which is sort of like a protest, but, I think rallies are more peaceful than a full on, walking down the street, with a possibility of a can of tear gas in your face by the local law enforcement type of protest.

I would love to know what you think.  Has this #boycottTarget movement gone too far, just right, or you do not care either way?  I will not be offended, and no spamming, please.