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I am in awe of Black Friday. It has never been my thing to get up at the crack of dawn, get dressed, drive with flyers in hand, and go to snag a deal. You all seen the news: fights and squabbles over basement bottom deals than any other time of the year seem too good to be true, yet we, as a western civilization do it every year. I first noticed it when the Cabbage Patch Dolls first in 1982. I wanted a Cabbage Patch Doll and begged my mom for one. Then I watch the news. Dolls were thrown like footballs, and women grabbing them left and right. Some were sent to the hospital. I finally got my doll, 6 months later. My mom was not going in the dead of night to get a doll for me, but she and my dad promised that
I could have one. The price was not the same, but I got my doll.
Nowadays, Black Fridays have been mostly about how to get television dirt cheap. Computers, phones, and even the Amazon Echo Dots. Some people have a whole ritual around Black Friday. You do not have to stress like that. Deals and cash backs are given every day, especially on sites like Ebates, Swagbucks, and Be Frugal. I will show you in my other blog, At Home with Tricia's Baskets.
Today, I want to talk about your mental health during the holidays. Everyone knows that if you are not careful, the holidays can turn a happy time into a sad one, especially for those who lost loved ones before and during the year. No one is expecting you to be cheery during this time. They say the first year is the hardest, and it gets easier as the time goes along. I miss my grandparents, and yes, I had a hard time of not receiving a gift from my grandmother in Alabama, who did not have to send presents to all of her grandchildren, but she did. I miss how my grandfather was during the holidays. As I got older, it seems easier to go on with life. If you lost someone this year or cannot seem to go on with life after that lost from years past, talk to someone. Also, find a person to connect to. It may be a family member or friend, volunteer in a soup kitchen, help with a toy drive. Find something, anyone that allows you to connect. I am not an expert in grieving, but I have seen what it does for someone in need.
Now, let’s talk about your decorations and other things in the house. I will talk more about it in part 3 on my At Home with Tricia's Baskets blog, but for the mental part, do not feel like you have to decorate to the nines. If this is the way you have to decorate, that is fine. I am not telling you how to decorate your home, but if you get to the point where it is stressful for you every year, slow down and take a pause. Breathe, and ask yourself why are you doing this? Maybe this is the year where you take a look at other people’s decorations. Maybe this is the year where you get invited to enjoy family outside of your home. Maybe this is the year where you and your family give one present instead of 20. Take a break from the annual Christmas party at your house.
I am not saying do not decorate, give presents, or eat until you feel like a stuffed turkey. 2019 will be here, and if you are blessed to see a 2019 holiday, maybe plan in June what you are going to do for the holidays in December. Do not apologize either. Everyone deserves and needs a break.
Finally, let’s talk about planning. I started a new Wednesday segment called journaling, and the holidays is the perfect time to start a little journaling. This is what I call, Project Journaling. The holidays is a project, so why not do a planning journal on the experience. This way, when it comes to planning next year, you can look back, so the same plans or tweak it a little. The way I plan it I write out the even in Erin Condren life planner, then I get a journaling book (hardcover or soft, you can get one from Erin Condren or at DollarTree) and label it Holiday planning or something like that. You can even jot down your feelings during this time. When the holidays are over, express how you truly felt about the holidays, what you did right, and what you did wrong. On what you did wrong part, do not beat yourself up about it, but talk about what you would have done differently and what you will do differently next year. Not all holidays are perfect.
As I said in when I talked about grieving for a loved one, always make sure you put someone first, but also take care of yourself as well. Destress with a bubble bath, a good book, devotions, or even volunteer. There is always someone in need. Give to a clothing drive, to declutter and make room for your new clothes, give away your old appliances to make room for the ones in the kitchen. Make your children part of this as well. Any gently used toys could go in a toy drive. Also, make plans for the new year as well. It is always a good time to set some new goals. Do not beat yourself up if you did not achieve the ones in 2018. Incorporate them into 2019.
Have fun, but do not stress out.
Peace on Earth.
