What society expects

nieces (Photo credit: sukhchander)

...."snips and snails and puppy dog tails
That's what little boys are made of."
Really?   Parents of another generation, is that what you think little boys are made of?   Altough I do not have children of my own, I am blessed to have four.  17,6,3,and 2 years old (the 2 year old is actually a friend of mine's child).   As I watch all of them, 17 going into a man, the 6 year old is learning to make friends, and the 3 and 2 year old learning about all the things around them, I cannot help but to wonder why I keep telling myself why I want to adopt a girl.  Boys are fascinating to watch.  I guess it is the silliness to take risks.  We as a society, encourage little boys to be adventurous, daring, and to take risks.  We tell them it is ok to be rough, tough, and to scrape a couple of knees.  I love little boys as much as little girls.  Let's move on...
...."Sugar and spice, and everything nice,
That's what little girls are made of.
Again, parents of another generation, is this what you used to think of little girls.   Sweet, cute, and whinny?   We expect little girls to learn how to be submissive and to be lady-like.  Alone with those little nephews, I have a 5 year old niece.  She is the sister to the 6 year old.   She always want to do what her brother does, but again due to society's wishes, we tell her, like all little girls to be delicate, dainty, and cute.
So what if a man likes to cook, clean, and dress nice, or a woman likes to fix cars, build things, or ride a motorcycle, what are they to society?   They are considered gay.   Not necessary.  For those of you who still think that, consider this:
How is a man or woman supposed to survive without a mate?  A person does not have to get married, or for some reason they cannot get married.   For a man, that means how are they supposed eat, when health experts tell us that we have gotten too fat off of fast food.   It is also unhealthy to live in a messy house.  If a man does not dress nice, he is considered a bum or homeless.
Likewise, if a woman does not know how to fix anything, she may never know what needs to be fix or how to fix it.   Yes, there are experts out there, but when there is a problem, the person in trouble is always the one to blame.   After all, how does a woman find out how much money is in the bank account, how to invest, and when to invest.   Are cars the only mode of transportation for a woman?  And finally, how is a woman going to make a change in society to benefit gender relationships?   I  thought so.
So, the conclusion is simply.  Yes, boys can be rough, but so can girls.  Girls can cook and dance, but so can boys. Let a person be who they want to be, and survive the best way they know how, and unless they are hurting another person, let them be.
Be blessed my friend.

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Welcome to Fall….Or is it Autumn.

It is amazing how many people say autumn vs. fall, but does it really matter?  I say fall, because it is easier to spell at 2 am in the morning.   As we close out the last few hours of summer in Central Ohio, I cannot help but to think about my summer.  Last year, I had some truths about my summer of 2012, which you can read about, and it is now become a standard tradition for me to recap summer of 2013 in th

e same manner.  So here we go:

1. Traveling with a 2 year old is fun and adventurous.  They are still at the stage where they sleep most of the time.
2. At the same time, you have to eat where they are most comfortable, and you do have to pull your hair out.
3. Disney wants a down payment on future travel dates, NOW!
4. I aged a year.
5. It is frustrating to talk to a travel agent with an accent.

Ok, so I not have the same amount of truths that I had last year, but over all, it has been one interesting summer.  Let me say I am looking forward to the following fall traditions:

1. Curling up with my blanket and a book on cool nights, and that book does not have to paper or hardback.  It could be digital-back.  I have my own Ipad this year (borrowed my mom’s for most of 2012) and a new phone (old smartphone was getting dumber by the minute), so I have plenty of curling up to do. 
2. Harvest fest at my church.  As I explained last year, we are not into Halloween, but we do allow kids to dress up if they want to.
3. Starting the countdown of paying off that vacation on the seas in April with Disney.  11 people on a cruise?  The Disney Dream will never be the same again when we are through, LOL.
4. Did I mention that it was time for my blanky?

All jokes aside, I hope you have a fun, rip-roaring, run through the fall leaves, and drink lots of apple cider, pumpkin carving, with lots of turkey fun this fall.  Soon your days will be filled with snow, ice, and all things Christmas and Hanukah.  Make the most of it, and do something fall-like (or is it Autumn-like).  Have a hayride or two, and do not forget to decorate in your favorite fall colors.  Be blessed, my friend.  This summer 2013 is in the history books.

Semi-Wordless Wednesday: Techno baby

OK, let me set up this scene:  Nephew(3) is becoming tech savvy.  He called my Ipad "black piano", because I have a piano app on it, and every time he comes over to my parent's house, he wants to play with it.  The app looks like a real Piano/organ/keyboard, and he names it because of the black keys on it (I actually have a white Ipad, and Neph3 knows his colors better than niece(4) who is in Kindergarten).  Since I was using  "Black Piano" that day, I let him play with the android phone version of the piano app.