Orlando

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I have no words about this week, just like I had no words when 9 people were killed last year, during a bible study.  I am sad.  I am sad for this country and this world.  The killings were no different, then when school children were gunned down while in school in Sandy Brook or Columbine, or Virginia Tech and the school in Oregon.  They were no different when a gunman went to a military base in Texas and killed people.  I can even say that these killings are no different than 9/11, or when Michael Brown, Travon Martin, or Sandra Bland were killed. 

They are all the same to me, and the all too familiar scenario goes a little like this:  Someone got hurt.  Maybe it was an injustice, a law change, or a simple color of someone’s skin or lifestyle that trigger that hurt.  It could have been a mental illness (I hear voices that told me that it is right to do it). It followed hatred.  Hatred towards that group of people.  Next, comes the preplanning. “Where can I do it, and who can I do it to that hurt the least amount of people?” Preplanning also involves making the purchase of guns, ammo, training.  After all of that, and finding a target, then the act will commence.  An ordinary workday, a night out on the town, or a school day. 

People are getting ready to go about their day.  Children getting ready for school (Sandy Brook and Columbine), People getting ready for a day of work (9/11), students getting ready for classes (Virginia Tech), and people getting ready for a night out (Pulse Nightclub and Paris, France).  They kiss their loved ones, and off they go.  People are learning, working, or having fun.  All of a sudden, everything changes for the worst possible moment.  A shooting, a routine traffic stop gone bad (Sandra Bland), a walk home gone bad (Travon Martin), bombs going off (9/11, Paris France, and Boston Marathon).  Utter chaos erupts. People are hurt, forever disfigured, or killed.    In the next few days, weeks, and months followed, lives are changed, funerals, memorials, and plans for better security are made. 

Here is my question for all who read this:  Where are those plans now?  It is the job of the administrators and leaders of this country and the world to come up with a viable solution that not only deter these people from doing harm to the general public but, make a peaceful coexistence for all.  It does not matter what race you are, gender, creed, belief, sexual orientation, or race, one of our jobs as humans is to try to peacefully coexist with our environment and with each other.

The president came up with a plan that bans the use of automatic weapons.  He did not say that you cannot own a gun, such as a rifle (manual-think westerns) or handguns (I can think of a Saturday Night Special).  Automatic guns are the kind where you put your finger on the trigger and you only have to pump one time, and multiple bullets come out.  A semi-automatic is slightly different.  That is all I know about guns. The NRA (the National Rifle Association), is a good old boy’s organization, which thinks that the president is going after their 2^nd amendment rights to bear arms.  You will still have the right to bear arms, and to protect yourselves, and to hunt for sport (although I do not see why for sport when you got to eat), to me, you do not have the right to own an automatic weapon.  Why would you have one in the first place, when it is made for combat and military use ONLY, O-N-L-Y.   

I have written a comment (a letter) to the wife of the minister in Sacramento, CA, who said in his sermon, that “Orlando is now safer since 50 Pedophiles were killed in a nightclub.”  This letter is what sparked this post in the first place, because, I had said all I had to say on Facebook, Twitter, and in person.  I had to write it on their family blog page because their church did not have a comments section on their blog.  Don’t worry, I did not blast him out.  I simply reminded her to remind him of the compassion that Jesus Christ showed all people, and to not hate the person, but the act. I have made a copy of comment, and is listed below:

“Mrs.  Jimenez, I come to you with deep concern for your husband as he leads your congregation towards showing Christ's love towards others.  Christ teaches us as Christians to love one another.  You do not have to love the sin that a person does, BUT love the person anyway.  We all need a reminder of that.
When I heard on the news of the things that your husband said about Orlando, Florida in his sermon, I was very dishearten.  I thought to myself "please tell me he did not say what I thought he said."  How could he say that Orlando is a little safer because 50 Pedophiles were killed in a nightclub?  These are not the words of Christ, because, Christ teaches us to love the person despite the sin. He taught us to love people, so to say that Orlando is a lot safer does not show love nor compassion.  It shows hatred towards the person who has committed the sin.
Mrs. Jimenez, I do not know your husband and his heart, only God does, and I am not here to show that hatred towards him.  I have nothing but prayers for him, for you, and for your family and your congregation.  I am not part of that community, I am straight, African American female who is a United Methodist in Columbus, Ohio (although it does not matter what denomination I am).  My minister, on his last day at my church, as he and his family are moving to a new appointment, Sunday, encouraged us all to have compassion and prayers for not only the City of Orlando, but for the victims, friends and families of all who were killed, that they may be comforted.  My minister, as well as I, do not believe that any of them are pedophiles, but people who are trying to have a good time that night.  No one knows these people's hearts but God.  They may have confessed their sins as they took their last breaths.  You may never know.
May God bless you and your family for now and forever.  I wish you well, and I will be praying for you and your city and congregation as well.”

I hope this was a misunderstanding, as the news media has a tendency to take things out of context, and sensationalize it.  I like to believe that Pastor Jimenez has the love of Christ in his heart, and again that this was all a misunderstanding.  We, as Christians have to really watch what we say to others, me included.

#prayersforOrlando

How to punish a child…the School Edition.

  

Now parents, non-parents, and grandparents alike, do you think it seems fair to punish a child this way?   I remember a time that if Johnny was allergic to something, a parent was allowed to bring in special food (without the allergen in it), and the kid can still participate.  By the time that kid went to Kindergarten, they knew what they can and cannot eat, it was put on their school record from day one, and no one made a fuss about it.  Same with religious restrictions.  But folks, we as a nation have become a nation of, “If I cannot do it, neither can you.”  I understand where they are coming from.

The school/school system does not want teachers to put out any extra work to decide what child gets what food item, so all special parties for a birthday, not even healthy snacks, because they are so afraid of what happens if they get sued for the following:

• Ignoring their special food needs child
• Ignoring their religious rights
• Ignoring their cultural rights

So school boards across the nation are issuing out new rules and guidelines for birthdays, holidays, and other events.  I want to take the time to address each of the other problems that also exist in this country regarding school and food…

Punish the child to fit the parent's crime....

A town in Utah a few months ago, the school board decided that they were fed up with delinquent payments from parents with the school lunch program, so instead of confronting the parents one at a time, they took the children’s lunches, throw them in the trash, and the children were given fruit and water.  After several people complained, the school board reneged and the children were given back their lunches, and the school system is working out a payment plan for all the parents.

In a Canadian providence, a mother made her children’s lunch.  That afternoon, she received a notice from the school stating that she forgot a grain item in their lunch, so she was fined $10, because they added that item in the children’s lunch.

In a non-food example, but related, a school decides that because Halloween is a pagan holiday, there will be no parades around the school with costumes, no homemade goodies for the children.  Christmas is the same way, except Christmas is NOT a pagan holiday.  

One of the problems has been that the country has allowed too many people in and claiming that they have the right to live the way they want to, but at the same time, these same people want to denying everyone else that same right.  I am not against immigration, because we immigrate to other countries as well, but if I want my child to have the same privilege that I had as a child at school, I have that right.   I want my child to enjoy parties, and sending their teacher a gift for being for him/her, in addition to the academic part.  The other parents do not have to participate, but some school systems has a “non-exclusion” policy.

As for the school lunch punishments being constantly issued throughout the land, schools need to take a hint from Utah, work out a payment with the parent, not the child.  Children should be allowed to be children, and not be involved with “grown folk’s” dealings.   If a parent wants to send a child an unhealthy lunch, which in the case of the Canadian woman who was fined $10 for not having a grain item in her children’s lunches, was very healthy, let them.  They know what their child likes and dislikes.   Please allow a parent to be a parents, because there are too many parents who could care less about their child.

So is there a solution...

It seems that there is no viable solution in the school system, but there is.  The trouble is there are too many people needing too many rights.  I have only scratched the surface.  Who knows when the next newscast will pop up a story about a child (or a group of children) being deny something in school?  My next question is what is the school system’s stand on bullying?   Think about it and be blessed.